FATHERHOOD PT1

ON THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSSED WHAT FATHERHOOD IS AND WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A FATHER. BEING A FATHER IS SOMETHING YOU LEARN THROUGH DAILY EXPERIECES FATHERHOOD CAN'T BE TAUGHT. MEANING EVERY FATHER WONT BE OR THINK THE SAME AND OR ADDRESS ISSUES WITH THEIR CHILDREN THE SAME. 

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Peace, please, please. Contact them with Supreme Mandar Podcast, where we inform and inspire on the host and create a Supreme Manda, the self-made God, Supreme Being, Supreme Energy, Supreme Thought, Supreme Vibe, Supreme Mind, Supreme Manda Podcast, Let's Build. Well What up, y'all? Peace. Peace in the universal family, every man, woman, and woman, and child. Peace, love, and light. Upon every person. I can hear the sound of my voice. Prepare for another epic episode, season two, episode 16. Fatherhood. Hope you check out the previous episode, episode 15, titled Brotherhood. Gratitude for those who checked out episode 14, which was Sisterhood. And if you haven't, check it out. So let's get into this. And you know, the experiences, father's experience during fatherhood. Well let's get into the definition right quick. Fatherhood is the state conditional quality of being a father. It covers the biological, legal, and social role of raising, protecting, and guiding a child. It represents a lifelong commitment to a child's emotional and physical well-being, right? As well as their mental. And their spiritual. Every aspect of a child is your responsibility when they're a child, right? You're committed to setting the example for life of how to be who you are. Most of all, which is important. Being who you are generally means you're being authentic. You're operating in your authentic self. I'm having an exceptional experience running out here at the Empire State Plaza, Albany, New York. Decided, you know, to come back to record an episode outside. This will be my second time. And it's just a vibe altogether. Like it's incredible just to be in nature for someone like me to, you know, not just be able to connect with nature in general, but to connect with nature and be able to, you know, connect mentally and emotionally as well as spiritually with listeners across the world doing this podcast. So yeah, let's get back to fatherhood. So yes, I'm a father myself. Um let's get into the true meaning of fatherhood, which is found in daily presence. Fatherhood is daily presence, unconditional love, and steady guidance, teaching, leadership. It goes far beyond biology. Focuses and focusing instead on sacrifice, emotional support, and building a safe space where a child can grow, learn, and feel secure. See now that definition to me entails more of what a father is about. It goes like one main part says it goes far beyond biology, meaning you don't have to be a child's biological father, right? To be present in their life, to be, to show them unconditional love and to be a steady guide, teacher, or leader, you know what I'm saying, in their life. You know what I mean? You don't have to be their biological father to build a safe space so that child can grow, learn, and feel secure. You know what I mean? So like I said, when I say I'm a father, that's biological, non-biological. But it's the energy, it's the connection that binds us, that connects us. So biological necessarily don't matter. Spiritual family, so to speak. You feel me? So being a father for me was very, very special. Very special. Shout out to Asaan of all my oldest. It was the experience itself was completely atrocious. Like I ain't even gonna lie to you. Um it was completely atrocious. You know what I'm saying? Um just going back and tapping into how I felt being overlooked, undermined concerning a child that I literally created, one of my creations, along with his mother, of course, was speaking for you know myself, my editor. Um shout out to Blue Raz. So it's just like you know, it was a it wasn't a good experience for me at all. You know what I'm saying? Like it really was a terrible experience, personally, right, physically, not physically, but um emotionally and mentally, that shit really bothered me. It fucked me up, like, you know what I'm saying, as a father then, and it like it it it cut deep, you know what I'm saying? Like that shit was rooted. It really, it really, really, really fucked with me. You know what I'm saying? Mentally and emotionally, you know what I mean? And it it was definitely the culprit of why I did to choose, I did choose to do certain things. I, you know, decided to make certain choices at that age, you know what I'm saying? Not too long after becoming a father, and after, you know, not being able to experience my first born child being a male seed, you know what I'm saying? On top of that, you know, I wasn't able to experience it in a, you know what I mean, in a fulfilling way to where, you know, I was able to embrace him as soon as, you know, he took his first breath, as soon as he, you know, entered the world, I wasn't able to embrace him along with his mother and the doctors. You feel what I'm saying? Like they were able to celebrate, and I wasn't able to celebrate, you know what I'm saying? With or for a person, an individual, an earthly being that, you know what I mean, I created, you know what I mean? So it was just like it really, it really bothered me in a sense where you know, I felt left out, I felt insecure, I felt like I didn't mean anything, I felt like, you know, you know, I'm just unworthy of great things. You know what I'm saying? Even though I created a great being. You feel what I'm saying? He's magnificent, you know what I mean? Like the things that he's accomplished, you know what I mean? Being a what a mid-20 year old, he's 24 right now is incredible. You know what I'm saying? And it's it's inspiring, it keeps me inspired, keeps me empowered, keeps me motivated, you know what I'm saying, to know that a child that I wasn't able to see be born, a child that, you know, I didn't um have the best in real-time relationship with due to, you know, issues with the mother's family and things like that, and them just like completely creating a barrier for me not to be able to be there, even just spend time. Like, you know what I'm saying? I know I have to provide financially, but like he needs me in the physical form too, for me to be present, which was one of what which was part of the true meaning of fatherhood, right? It's a daily presence, unconditional love, steady guidance. But if I'm being blocked out and forced out and pushed out, how can I provide that? But then at the same sense, saying that I'm not providing it. Right? You feel what I'm saying? Like, just don't add up. But that was something that clearly I was supposed to experience, you know, that I don't wish on nobody. I mean, I don't regret it. It it truly turned me into an example of resilience, you know what I'm saying, in the Phoenix at the same time, you know what I mean? Because I was broke down, I was at my bottom. I didn't feel I felt powerless, I felt like I wasn't shit, you know what I mean? But to create something so beautiful at the same time helped me, you know, keep a balance and help me, you know what I'm saying, to create a better mindset to know, like, you know, this may have happened, but there's still, you know, great things yet to come. And don't let this situation, you know, bury me. But when you bury your seed, that's great. It grows, it produces. You dig what I'm saying? So I feel like it's the hard times that develop the best characters in ourselves. You know what I'm saying? And bring out the best, you know, that we can be, and that, you know, we can, you know, learn how to self-develop and personally develop through hard times and you know, use those things as lessons. Um, it was a struggle, I promise you, it was like more emotional and mental than anything. You know what I mean? And I was able to get through it. And again, I speak about mentally having a strong mindset being like one of my greatest attributes, one of my strongest suits, you know what I'm saying, and abilities is my mental capacity to continue to push forward no matter what's going on. Nothing can hold me back, you know what I'm saying? Like, that's the type of mentality that I was able to establish and realize that I had, you know what I'm saying? And I was able to use it to my ability, you know what I mean? And in in real time, not realizing that I was using that mental strength, you know what I'm saying? But I felt like the emotional part felt heavier than the mental part. You dig what I'm saying? So with it with the part and stuff, with the emotional and mental and mental, you know what I'm saying, heaviness like together is shit. It literally broke me down. And as a young teen, you know what I mean? I I made, you know, I made irresponsible decisions. You feel what I'm saying? I didn't make the correct decisions lashing out based upon, you know what I mean, like how I felt towards the situation. And, you know, my heart was broke. I was heartbroken. I literally was because, you know, I seen it different. Not that, you know, I would have been a perfect anything, or, you know, the situation would have been perfect. And, you know, I would have just been a millionaire and you know, nothing like that. But as far as like being there to see my seed come out and, you know, holding them, changing his diapers and things like that, you know, the sentimental things for me mean more than you know anything. Of course, providing for sure financially is needed, absolutely, but providing mentally and emotionally is more security for them, right? For them as an individual, right? You know what I mean? The money will come and go, but the lessons that enable you to build and add on to yourself in a positive way is what's gonna mean more, which outweighs everything and all things. You know what I'm saying? Like a person's character outweighs what they have or they don't have. You dig what I'm saying? And I think that's what makes character and the the things that money can't buy so important, right? Because those are the things that people can't take from you, you know, once you establish them, once you understand, understand, and overstand. You dig what I'm saying? So we should look at the hard times, also known as tough times, as lessons, right? And ways to learn, try to figure out what is trying to teach us about ourselves and those around us, all the people involved directly. You feel what I'm saying? And it said a lot about the people that were involved directly, you know. It showed that they needed healing, they were unseen, they were unheard, you know, and they felt they was in a position of power and or over a person that they felt didn't have power, you know what I mean? And, you know, they decided to use their power against me, right? To, you know, bring me down, but not to uplift me. You know what I'm saying? And it was way, it was, it was certain ways they did support, but at the end of the day, I feel like it was just to say that they did, you know what I'm saying? Or because they felt bad that, you know, they just went about the shit the wrong way. Of course, you know, when your child is young having a child, I'm sure that's hard. Like, you know what I mean? Like, just definitely not doubting that and not, you know, taking that lightly from one parent to another parent. You know what I mean? And at the time I wasn't a parent, I still was a teenager, you know what I'm saying? Young-minded, child-minded, you know what I mean? And I'm creating another life that I have to be responsible for. You dig what I'm saying? So, no, it wasn't the right decision for me to create a child, I wasn't ready for, you know what I'm saying? Either one of us, but it's it's here. He's here, we're here. You know, we can't take it back. So, you know, again, it shows, you know, people's actions during hard times definitely emulates, you know, who they are, what they are, and you know, in a sense of what they're able to handle or what they're capable of dealing with, you know what I'm saying, when it comes to mental and emotional things. You think I'm saying a child being born, a new life in the family, you know what I'm saying? Definitely it is an emotional task at times, you know what I'm saying, and mental too, you know what I mean? Trying to figure out how to sustain and maintain this child to the best of your ability and make sure, you know, the child has and is provided for better than you were in every aspect that is of its highest importance, you know what I'm saying? And not the physical and material, but the mental, the emotional, the spiritual, you know what I'm saying? The the presence, the time being spent, the memories created, you know what I'm saying, are I feel like the pillar of you know any any relationship, so to speak. You know what I mean? But being a father to me is very important. And I feel like at an early age and at an early stage, it was it didn't have a beautiful feel like it has. Like, you know what I mean? And I feel like it should, you know, it shouldn't have been like that, but it was. And I'm complaining, but it's just like, damn, like I realized that, you know, things like that happening happened for a reason, you know what I'm saying? And it only made me stronger, it only built me up emotionally, mentally, and things like that. So I really, you know, couldn't complain later on in life and just, you know, took it, of course, as a lesson. Once I was able to grow mentally and have a growth mindset and realize that, again, things don't happen to you, they happen for you. And they, you know, and things that happen, things happen that may seem like they're a bad thing, but in reality, it's building your character up, it's building and conditioning you to be mentally tough, emotionally tough, and realize things. You know what I'm saying? Like the hardest battles are given to the greatest angels, right? Because they can deal with it and it's helping them be who they need to be. You know what I'm saying? We go through things because it's molding us to be who we're supposed to be. Right. So shout out to all my fathers out there. Uh no, as an original indigenous father or alleged black father, you know, we're looked at as deadbeats, and we're looked at, you know, as just financial tools, you know. It's like mothers really aren't speaking or complaining or, you know, expressing themselves too much about us not spending time with our child. It's spending on the child. You know what I'm saying? Like you really don't hear mothers in general speaking on, you know, the average mother speaking on, you know, her child's father not spending time. Like it's usually always why he's not spending money or he's not spending enough money. You know what I'm saying? The child's your responsibility too. It's not just the father, just because I'm a father, but it stems from being a man. It's not just the fact you're a father. The father is just a title for a man that bears a child, created a child. You feel me? So the point is at our foundation, at our ground, we're men. We're a man, right? So how we are as a father had this conversation with the queen or whatever, that you know, it stems from being a man. Like it's not, it's not father issues. You know what I'm saying? It's it stems from a man. You dig what I'm saying? From a man being a man and you know, whatever he had to deal with as being a man. Like simple. You dig what I'm saying? So if, you know, as a man he's not accountable or responsible, then he's not really gonna be an accountable or responsible father. So that's not really saying nothing about him as a father. Like that's saying something about him as a man, like as his root. And I ain't tearing down the kings, I ain't tearing down us at all. You feel what I'm saying? I'm, you know, giving you the root and giving you some knowledge, wisdom, and understanding to fatherhood, you know what I'm saying, and what it entails, and it, you know, and things that, you know, fathers experience and how people experience us as fathers, you know what I mean, is based on, like I said, us being men, a man, you know what I'm saying, and what we had to endure as a man child, you know what I'm saying, and as a manly man, you know what I'm saying? Meaning, you know, grown and on your own accountable and responsible. You feel me? Um, so you know, there's always a root cause to anything, any person, any situation, circumstance, whatever. Like, you know what I mean? And I think we think and look so surface level and basic with shit that we don't look at the underlining of things. You know what I mean? We look at the titles and try to justify them more than the actual situation at hand and actually trying to solve it, resolve it, and things like that. You know what I mean? So we have to, you know, properly examine things, research things. You know what I mean? And don't just believe what we hear, you know, what we think or what we allegedly know, right? Because what we know could not be the truth. So what does that say about everything you do know? Right? It could be false. You feel me? So the point is you should always want to lead yourself and be yourself. You know what I'm saying? And that's how you operate in authenticity, and that's how the right people gravitate to you. You know what I'm saying? That's how the right situations and opportunities come your way by you operating in your highest frequency, which is authenticity. Feel what I'm saying? And that has nothing to do with being perfect. So my kings out there, y'all gotta stay focused, man. No matter what. I know we're up against the odds with society and our counterparts, our women, the mothers. You know what I'm saying? But you know, we can't sulk, we can't what I want to say. You know, we can't stay focused on issues, on the issue, on the issue. You know, we have to focus on solutions. Part of self. You know what I mean? We gotta focus on solutions at hand. You know, we have to govern ourselves accordingly and deal with situations, circumstances, and issues and conflicts logically. Right. We have to because our children are watching us, right? We're the pillar of the family, we're the masculine of the family, we're the leaders and protectors of the family. And it's our duty to do such as that. And that doesn't mean you have to be gangster of all time, you have to have a million guns and a felony record. That has nothing to do with being a strong man and or, you know, representing, you know, a strong fatherhood. You know what I mean? That's great. That's something you want to attain, that's something you want to accomplish, that's something you should want to be, right? And strong doesn't mean ignorant, arrogant, you know what I'm saying? Sassy doesn't mean impatient or reckless. You know what I mean? Strength means calm, strength means mastery, strength means love, strength, strength means patience, strength means understanding, right? Strength means inner standing, overstanding. You know. Strength means clarity. Strength means stability. So remember that you know, we're the masses of our universe. And you know, the situations we find ourselves in are the ones we created, fathers, right? And as a young father, I could tell you I shouldn't have been a father. You know what I mean? Like I shouldn't have been engaged in intercourse, you know what I mean, at that age. There should have been better things I should have been doing with my time. You know what I mean? But that's what happens when you know we're not facilitated and or groomed correctly, you feel I'm saying, as young boys. Right. Meaning our fathers aren't setting the standard with us properly in the areas that should be set. And no, I'm not saying, you know, your child won't wear off, but at least you can say that you taught them. Right? You dig what I'm saying? You can't really fault them for things that they've done or did if you haven't really showed them anything. You dig what I'm saying? You haven't taught them anything. You know what I mean? You haven't been present enough to just be present, you know what I mean? Besides, you know, being disciplined, you know what I mean, or just something you know, a parent would you just normally be there for. You know what I'm saying? And that's another thing, as fathers or as mothers, like as a father, well, let me not speak on mothers, but as a father, shout out to the mothers, though. Or it up, shout out to the sisters, the earth, the wisdoms, the creators of civilization. Word. Shout out to y'all, the moon, or but as fathers, like once we become a father, then you know that's our responsibility to do what needs to be done as a father. Like, that's just that's just it. You have another task now. We're not just you know learning and healing and growing as a man, you're learning, healing, and growing as a father. You know what I'm saying? So you just added a task to yourself, but you know, it's just something that you can't get around. You know what I mean? And sometimes that's not necessarily true. That's that's that's generally speaking. We shouldn't, we should be able to, but sometimes we, you know, again, my point when we when we engage in intercourse too early, you know, we put ourselves in bonds and positions that are just unnecessary at that time in our life because we can't really manage it correctly. You know what I'm saying? As young teens, we're still child-minded, you know what I mean? I'm still adolescent-minded, I should say. And still living out our childhood, so to speak. You know what I mean? So for us to put ourselves in those positions means that again, we weren't facilitated right, managed right, governed right by, you know, either of our parents. And, you know, we have to suffer the consequences. And suffering the consequences sometimes come with dealing with a woman that, you know, just don't know love, and not saying that, you know, you're the best of all time, but you know, people that haven't been loved correctly, including you, if you in that space, you know, it's not gonna create anything positive. You feel what I'm saying? And the opposite of love is not necessarily hate, the opposite of love is fear. You lacked fear, you're a part of self you lacked love, so you fear. So when you actually feel love, you're in fear, you run away from it, you move from it, right? But if it's a person that's not treating you correctly, you seem to have the capacity to deal with that, you feel what I'm saying, and give all of the chances in the world. Isn't that ironic? Right? So my point is that you know, we engaged without the knowledge of who that woman was or that young girl was at that time when we were a young man, you feel what I'm saying, and making decisions as adults, as if we're accountable and responsible at that time, or we're really not. And if we are, we're responsible for the simple things brushing it, what brushing our teeth, washing our face, making our beds, doing our homework, doing our chores as teenagers. You know what I'm saying? Like being respectful, like those are the things that was asked of you. You dig what I'm saying? But outside of that, you know, you put on extra counter, extra responsibilities on yourself that you don't even know how to handle. You feel me? So, and that was your choice. Sometimes we, you know, we deal with women that just you know, hurt, man. You know what I'm saying? Whether it's their childhood, it's whether it's, you know, just generational trauma or all of the above. You know what I mean? Maybe, you know, you're dealing with a young girl that, you know, has a mother that hasn't raised her to the best of her ability, you know what I'm saying, that she could have been raised in. You dig what I'm saying? So, you know, those things happen. You know what I mean? And that's why, you know, we're gonna have backlash from either the parent or, you know, the a co-parent. And uh, in this case, technically I should be saying the grandparents are the parents of the person you made it with. You feel what I'm saying? My cop just flew away. But um, yeah. You know, we gotta be mindful of the decisions we make. And even as we get older, we shouldn't base our decisions off of surface-level things, material things, you know, like how a woman looks on the physical outskirts. Of course, be attracted to her, absolutely. But the foundation of dating a woman shouldn't be her big butt, her big bra size, how curvy she is, and things of that nature. Surface level shit. Like it should be her knowledge, wisdom, and understanding of herself. It should be her mentality, how she's able to, you know, hold the conversation, her intelligence, her wisdom, how she carries herself, you know, simple things, sentimental things, how she smells, like, you know what I mean? The fragrance she wears, how she walks, how she talks, just, you know, just the essence of her womanhood and who she is. You think I'm saying should be the reasons why you engage with a woman. You know what I'm saying? It shouldn't be surface level, it shouldn't be based upon you want to sleep with her. But I mean, don't get it twisted. It's nothing wrong with like being straight up and honest. If you if you feel as though there's a female, you're not in a dating mindset that you would like to be intimate with respectfully, shoot your shot respectfully. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, it's really no way to say that you can't do certain things that like you know, are just you know, are just straight up and honest. It's just how you go about it. Like I said, be respectful. There's necessarily nothing wrong with, you know, being in that position. But what I'm saying is to be in a solid relationship with someone, you shouldn't, you know, be in a relationship with someone and try to establish something solid with someone based upon surface level attributes. You know what I'm saying? That's what I'm saying. But fatherhood is just as complex as motherhood. Nothing is easy, there's no books necessarily, no instructions on how to be a parent, so to speak. But, you know, we could watch others do it. You know what I mean? Like for instance, I watched others, you know, change diapers, and you know, my family members, you know, change younger family members' diapers, and you know, I end up at an early teen, preteen, you know, started changing diapers, which helped me in fatherhood, you know what I'm saying? Or just helping out in general. You think I'm saying? Through example, you know what I'm saying? So you can learn a lot from just watching, seriously, just paying attention. You can learn so much on how to do things, how to accomplish things, how to, you know, how to do whatever. You know what I mean? Um, there's multiple ways to solve a problem. To there's multiple ways to accomplish anything. You know what I mean? And you have the capacity to accomplish anything if that's what you choose to do. And shout out to my father, shout out to my grandfather, shout out to my uncles, shout out to my cousins as fathers. Peace to y'all. Let's get into some core aspects of fatherhood. One is paternity, right? The biological or legal status of being a male parent, right? Bearing a child. Two responsibility, the daily duty to care for, support, and protect a child. Three, nurturing, being emotionally and physically present to guide a child through life. Now, that most of all is the bottom line right there. We'll get back to that. Four, inclusion, extending past birth parents to adoptive fathers, stepfathers, and male mentors. Both of them, three and four, is are incredible. Bottom line. Right? You're gonna speak on each. So paternity. Yeah, it's definitely a great and beautiful thing to bear a child that's biologically yours, has your genes, and looks like you, and you know that that's wonderful. You know what I'm saying? And, you know, they have abilities like you have. You get what I'm saying? Like there's just certain things about them that, you know, reflect their parent. Or that's, you know, definitely a badge of honor as a parent. You know what I'm saying? For your child to resemble you in some form or fashion. Or responsibility, the daily duty, care for, support, and protect the child. Yeah, we we have to protect our children. That's definitely important. And that's every day, all day. You know what I'm saying? Around the clock. Every second, every minute, every hour. You know what I'm saying? Every experience we should be supporting, caring for, and protecting our children. You feel what I'm saying? And the only way we can truly and honestly do that to our best of our ability is if that we're actually taking care of, supporting, and protecting ourselves as parents, as fathers, because we can't give things we don't have. If we don't possess it, how could we give it? We can't. Can't offer something we don't have. So we must first care for ourselves, be able to support ourselves and protect ourselves to genuinely be a responsible father. And again, like I said, number three, nurturing, being a emotional and physical, being emotionally and physically present is incredible. Like that's the pillar of being a father, of being a parent. I feel like of being a being is being able to create a safe emotional space for a child or a person. You know what I'm saying? Like being emotionally and physically present for a person to vent, to shed their tears without judgment, to speak on things without judgment, to feel less than without judgment, to, you know what I mean, to deal with difficult times and need guidance. You feel what I'm saying? Like that's important. You know what I mean? And be able to have, you know, a child feel safe to speak to you, to vent to you, to open up to you about things that they feel or feeling or felt, you know what I'm saying? Is incredible. You know what I'm saying? And then being physically present, like, you know, maybe answering a phone call, you know, for your child, you know, that's going through something, yeah. Whatever type of presence you can provide at that time, sometimes when able to be physically present, but that physical presence is incredible. Being able to be near them, look in their eyes, they look at you, the embrace, the hug. You feel what I'm saying? On top of the encouraging dialogue is just a huge safe space for them to feel comfortable and say, ah, like damn, I needed to release that. You know, I didn't know it was gonna feel so good. I didn't know that, you know, I was capable, you know, being able to release these emotions. And no, they're probably not thinking that at the time, but I'm sure internally their souls are thankful for any space that's created that's safe where you know they can just be themselves. You know what I'm saying? I spoke on childhood, like some children are just forced to grow up earlier than they need to or should or want to, based upon them being an only child or being or having oldest, being really young and having older siblings. You know what I mean? It's like it's subconscious, like you're around them all the time. So subconscious means a pattern that was created, a habit. So it's like they're gonna be them, they're gonna conduct themselves, you know, your older siblings how they conduct themselves. So now you're trying to grow as a younger sibling in your level, but you're still subjected to, you know, your older siblings experiences and their atmosphere, you feel what I'm saying? So that, you know, indirectly and unintentionally forces a child to grow up quicker and experience things, you know, on a higher level versus their level. You feel what I'm saying? And that's also a part of protecting your children, you know what I mean? It's like, I know, of course, having older siblings and younger siblings, you can't literally separate them. But I think it comes down to like when certain when your older siblings have a situation or experience something they want to talk about, you don't have those conversations, certain conversations around your younger siblings, right? Or the younger child. But certain conversations are positive and have a good resolve and give them an example on what to do or not to do. So certain conversations, actually, the cypher had a conversation on the previous experience. The wisdom and the young, and the young wisdom was speaking on situations she had dealt with at work that the youngest wisdom was witnessed, you know, witnessing it. You know, I kind of like instructed her and guided her to like, you know, go ahead and you know, do something else. You too attached to the conversation. But the way the young wisdom was like explaining the situation and what she was talking about in detail really was it really explained to the youngest wisdom, like, yo, like literally, this is a way you deal with the situation, and this is how you don't, you know, this is a way you shouldn't deal with a situation based upon you feeling some type of way about something. And the moral of the story about the situation was that you know, you don't get out of character and get extra emotional and get out of character, you know what I'm saying? Again, or be unruly and disrespectful when you are emotionally feeling away, you know what I'm saying? When your emotions feel tampered with, unseen, unheard, you know what I'm saying? Your emotions are, you know, hurt. That happens, you know what I'm saying? But that doesn't give you, you know what I'm saying, the right to lash out at people. You know what I mean? You should be able to deal with your emotions in a respectful way versus, you know, lashing out, disrespecting people and doing things that, you know what I'm saying, will put you in the spotlight and not for good reasons. Feel me? Shout out to Nara, the young wisdom and shit. Definitely growing wise and and doing um doing excellent things, man. You know what I'm saying? Or so yeah, but being a nurturer is something that fathers probably aren't looked at to do. That's another thing, that's another important conversation I want to have as far as the third core aspect of fatherhood is the nurturing part. And I'm not saying fathers aren't nurturing, but fathers aren't sought out to be nurturers. You feel what I'm saying? Like I said, like the average mother is not really complaining about her son not or daughters not spending time with the father and you know, him just being present. It's more of his check, his money. You see what I'm saying? But back to the fathers, like I was watching episode of Lions, episode on Lions previously. When a previous experience. And you know, I've seen this before, but this particular scene just really played into fatherhood and played into a man, of course, who was that's who he starts out to be. We're not all men are fathers, but you can carry and emit and operate in fatherhood energy, though. Think what I'm saying. So that speaks into mentors, coaches, you feel what I'm saying, and non-biological fathers. Like, you know what I mean? But anyway, there was a scene where the mother, like, I'm gonna give you a little background real quick. Alright, so it was a lioness and like five, six of her male cubs, that ass father dipped off, forgot exactly for what and shit, but this is what stood out the most, right? So she's left with her five male lions, right? And that's rough with just one female there, a lioness, to gather food. You feel what I'm saying? You got cubs, they may be big as fuck, but they still adolescent-minded. Think I'm saying, in correlations to teenagers, you know what I'm saying? They may be tall and smart and all that, you know, govern themselves in a certain manner and fashion, but they're still adolescent-minded. That's real. You feel what I'm saying? So she has to do this alone. They're watching, they're trying to contribute. And actually, it was a scene where, you know, they all ran down. Unsuccessful. Six lions. You feel me? But they were, they didn't have the experience. You know what I'm saying? So, you know, it didn't go as planned or how you thought it it would. You know what I'm saying? Based upon a lack of experience, based upon the lack of knowledge, based upon the proper information on how to take down prey. Feel me? So all five of the lions run down. Simultaneously, one here, then one there, then one here, whatever, then the moms at the end tries to run down, right? Unsuccessful. So she goes out of the pride to try to grab something while the you know the six male cubs is, you know, back at the pride. Unsuccessful. She doesn't come back, she gets killed by the locals that are protecting the the cattle that they have on their, you know, on their farm. So I think the lion has traveled too far off the pride, you know what I'm saying? And came into human contact, so to speak. And they're gonna protect their cattle. And of course, this is in Africa somewhere. So um, but yeah, so she doesn't come back. So the youngest cub is sitting on this one spot in the pride on a in a on a like a mound where she could like see everything. She'll never come back. Boom. The next morning, the next rising, the brothers, you know, kind of feeling a type of way. The older brothers, you know, start to embrace the younger brother, like, yeah, mom's gone and shit, man. It's it's up. Like, and that just hit me, like, yo, they're called and labeled animals, but look how much understanding they have, how much emotion they have. No, they didn't cry and weep, and everybody and how they and everybody's gonna deal with loss differently, of course, from the animalistic standpoint, being in nature. They couldn't just sob and you know what I'm saying? Like they literally have a legacy to fulfill, to be a lion, to be a king, to create their own family, their own pride to protect, to run, to nurture, to leave to God. So, but these brothers embraced each other, they rubbed heads, bumped heads, licked each other. You feel what I'm saying? Like they that's their form of affection. That was dope. All right. And then just how when they got older, you know, they was able to, long story short, they ran a pride together, they chased off other rival lions, they met lionesses, boom, started, you know, started creating their own pride and shit. And they still did what? Was if they were affectionate with their lioness, and they were affectionate with them amongst themselves still. All six brothers were still affectionate, rubbed on each other's head, bumped, licked, whatever, played around, right? That that's how they show affection. But it's like as men or as fathers, we don't show that affection to each other. Of course, not saying lick on each other. I'm not saying that. That's animalistic affection. That's what they do. You know what I'm saying? We don't do that. You know what I mean? We can hug, nice strong handshake, tell each other we love each other, spend time being present. You know what I'm saying? That's how we show affection. That's ways that men can show affection to each other. You know what I'm saying? Which will enhance you being a man, which will enhance you being a father, which will enhance every aspect of you, right? So being a nurturer is a big thing, that's big energy. You know what I'm saying? That's strength. Word up. And also, what's a pillar and a perfect example of strength is also not being the biological father of a child, right? Being an adoptive father, being a stepfather, being a mentor, right? That takes strength. That child ain't yours, right? So you really don't have as much saying in certain aspects you do, the adoptive father and things like that, stepfather, you know, depending on the family dynamic. Yeah, you are completely responsible and have a hundred percent responsibility and accountability and say so over that child as much as the mother does. But some don't. But that's not what the purpose is. The purpose is to guide, be present, to support, to protect. Feel what I'm saying? And be that father you would want your father to be to you as a son. That's what it's about. That's it, and that's all. That's it, and that's all. So remember the core aspects as fathers that will enable us to be better as being fathers. You know what I'm saying? Nobody's perfect as an earthly being, and we'll never be. Growth is perfecting ourselves. Not all of us want to grow. Not all of us are capable or want to, you know what I'm saying? Some of us talk talk a good game, but it really ain't about too much. You know what I'm saying? I learned that you know just dealing with people in general, not just being a father, man. Just being a father, I'm a cup all over the place. Let's get to the second seed, Prince Supreme. Prince, what out peace? That was a great experience. I was there cutting umbilical cord, me and his mom had a great relationship. He was actually planned. You know what I'm saying? So it was like I almost redeemed myself and without even actually like planning to. Like, that wasn't like, oh, I well, first time, I now about to, you know what I'm saying? Even though he was planned, but I feel like subconsciously it did have something to do with it. Because I did share with her, you know, a bit about my previous experience being, you know, a father for the first time. But again, inexperienced, young, I feel like that shit came with it. You know what I'm saying? That's what came with it. So But again, second seed was all love, like was there from the from the the whole pregnancy, from the seed being conceived on that lovely night. You know what I mean? To birth, to cutting the umbilical cord, naming them. You know, that was literally my twin, my shadow. He was always with me, no matter where what I did, I was always present, he was always there with me. You know what I'm saying? If it was if I wasn't at work, that was most of the times, and he wasn't with me. But most times, even just hanging out with the fellas and shit, he still would be with me. You know what I mean? I took pride in being a father. I took pride in spending time, being present, being around him, protecting them, leading them. You know what I'm saying? Like, I truly did. That shit was it was that was heaven for me. You know what I mean? Mentally, that was heaven for me. And that sparked the healing within me internally from you know the previous experience. I had to, you know, I had to grow through. You know what I mean? And it showed me pretty much that there's certain things I'm not in control of and won't be in control of, but I can still have the control and have the ability to have control over myself and how I react to what happened, so how I react to the emotions, to how I react to how I feel about the circumstance, situation. Feel me? And I've learned that I truly have. You know, Prince Supreme's doing well, you know what I'm saying? Strong young man, you know, finding his way. And we all should have the ability to find our own way. Because I think that's the best way. You know what I mean? We shouldn't try to make our children be something they're not, or something they don't want to be, or something that just doesn't align with who they are, more or less. You know what I'm saying? Let them try to figure that out and carve out, you know, carve out a life what they feel as though is meant for them. You know what I'm saying? Last but not least, young king. You know what I'm saying, was there through the whole pregnancy, cut the umbilical core. Actually, some of the blood got in my eye. I was so ecstatic and proud and happy, like I didn't even give a fuck. But no harm, no foul, you heard. But yeah, that was a beautiful experience as well. That was my shadow. That was my twin. He was always with me wherever we went. Spent a lot of time along with Prince Supreme with my mother and shit. She was, you know, definitely wanted to be present and was active and fully present as a grandmother. Well, shout out to the earth. You know what I mean? Um, and again, it's like when certain family members are affected, it affects the whole family. You know what I'm saying? Like with my, you know, my first son. It wasn't as comfortable, it wasn't as smooth and free-flowing as far as you know, spending the time with him. That shit, like it gradually started, and then it came to a halt. So it really wasn't no consistency in that shit. You know what I'm saying? As far, and then my mom's involvement being the grandmother was limited too, just due to the circumstances. Like, we we just it was nothing we really could do. You dig what I'm saying? And in certain certain in certain circumstances, the best thing to do is to do nothing. You know what I mean? We have a great relationship now, of course. Which I'm grateful for, but the lady, the latter two seeds were able to experience a grandmother, you know what I'm saying, my mother specifically. And, you know, the most highest form. So, you know, I'm grateful for all the experiences from the high to the lows and you know, things that, you know, just transpired that had to transpire, you know what I'm saying? And just grateful for, you know, the lessons and the high vibrational times and experiences that transpired along with it. Or um back to king. But yeah, we went everywhere, you know what I'm saying? Had them with me majority of the time, all the time. And they, you know, they had their times together too, you know what I'm saying? Prince and King. Experiencing each other at an early age and things like that. That was dope seeing them, you know, vibe and shit like that. You know what I mean? Prince is what, 19, king is 16. You know, they're young men, they coming up. You know what I'm saying? Grateful for them for real. Um, and I feel like being a father, you know, enabled me to, you know, want to connect with other children and just indirectly connect with other children in general, as far as like, you know, children of the women I date, or just children in general for, you know, that within the community. I'm a New York State mentor, I have been since 2020. So, you know, there's children within the community, you know, you know, play a fatherly role too. And no, I'm not their father, but you know, being a guy, being a, you know, a voice of positive reason and direction and love and support, you know, that's showing them fatherhood. It's fatherhood energy. Feel me? So, you know, I'm grateful to, you know, have the experience and have the heart and want to do those type of things. You know what I mean? Because, you know, the things we deal with as men and as fathers, like we be damned if we do damn if we don't sometimes, you know what I mean? Be surprised that, you know, we give a fuck about anything, or, you know, we're not, you know, mentally just fucked up. You know what I'm saying? If some are, shout out to, you know, our fathers and the men that, you know, are dealing with mental issues and shit, you know, due to their childhood for whatever reason, and you know, and or due to, you know, their fatherhood experiences, you know, warping their mental state, you know what I'm saying, or emotional state, or vice versa, or both. You know what I'm saying? But one, either way, being affected by one is gonna affect everything else. You know what I'm saying? Your mind affects the body, your body's gonna affect the mind. Your emotions is fucked up, it's gonna fuck your fuck up your mind, fuck with your mind, and you know, your thought process. That should just go hand in hand. Mind, body, and emotions, you know what I'm saying? A part of your energy centers, and you know, which contribute to your self-concept, how you see yourself, how you view yourself, and you know, the things you feel you're capable of doing. And how, you know, most importantly, how you feel about yourself, you know what I mean? Shout out to all my seeds. You know what I mean? I just mentioned I just mentioned Pond Self. Shout out to Coco Beer, shout out to Pool Beer, shout out to Baby Bear, Word Up. I love y'all. Are any of a seed that I have experience putting time with? Peace to you. I love you, love all y'all, or gratitude for pulling up an ear to vibe with me. Supreme of the podcast. Shout out all my fathers in fatherhood. Or my lawyer listeners, please don't forget to rate and review. I would love your feedback. There's a fan mail section on the podcast website where you can rate and leave a review, whatever platform you're listening from. Please do the same. I'm gonna hear from y'all because I know y'all out there. 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