TRAUMA RESPONSES FT. CHRONICLES OF ALLY

ON THIS EPISODE I DISCUSSED TRAUMA WHAT IT MEANS AND HOW IT EFFECTS EVERY ASPECT OF OUR LIVES. TRAUMATIC RESPONSES ARE A DIRECT RESULT OF UNHEALED TRAUMA'S THAT WE'VE EXPERIENCED AT SOME POINT. SUPPRESSED TRAUMA SHOWS UP IN OUR EVER DAY INTERACTIONS BUT SOME OF US AREN'T AWARE ENOUGH TO NOTICE AND OR SCARED TO FACE IT IN ORDER TO HEAL!

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SPEAKER_04 0:24

Positive energy activates consistent elevation. Now it's happened to Supreme Minded Podcast where we inform and inspire knows and create a supreme minded, the self-made God, supreme energy, supreme being, supreme thoughts, supreme vibes, supreme mind, supreme minded podcasts. Let's build season two in effect or episode three titled trauma responses. Where we all have dealt with trauma to the point where it literally affected every part of our life, our existence, our thinking, um our relationships. Trauma affects everything. So you have to, you know, do what's necessary to um heal from your trauma. And sometimes the trauma that we have or take on is not even necessarily ours, meaning we didn't create it. Um it could be passed down from generation from generation because no one decided to heal. Right? Um, you know, it just got compounded upon generation upon generation, which in my opinion I feel like made it worse. Because it just it's like it's like leaving a cold or an infection or a disease untreated. You know, it usually, you know, tends to get more powerful with more time the longer that you know it exists in that specific state without any remedy or healing. So you know, trauma is a big thing. Trauma is um something uh we we deal with as a people. Um trauma is something that a lot of us maybe assume that we don't necessarily have. You know what I'm saying? We like to believe that we're fine and you know everything is cool, everything's good. Which there's nothing wrong with that, if that's the truth, you know what I mean? You're avoiding dealing with, you know, trauma that you experienced in your life. And just because you may not be going through it in real time, you know, you kind of force yourself to believe that you're okay. But in a sense, in real time, you possibly may be fine, you may be safe, you know what I'm saying? Within yourself and your surroundings, but you experiencing that trauma is still affecting you in some form or fashion, and you're just not aware of it. So let's get into the definition of trauma. You know how we do on Supreme on the podcast. We get into a definition of a topic, if it calls for it, and then you know I mean, I'll give you some dialogue to go with it, or that's built. Trauma. Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience that overwhelms an individual's ability to cope, causing lasting negative effects on mental, emotional, and physical well-being. It often involves a severe threat to safety or life, resulting in feelings of helplessness, fear, and shattered security. Well, that's a lot. And it's a lot within itself, but it's even it's even more detrimental because it affects your mental, your emotional, and your physical. And whatever your mental is going through or dealing with is going to affect your emotions and your physical self. You feel me? If you're not in tune and or aware of who you are and your thoughts. You feel what I'm saying? Some of us are aware of our thoughts, but not too many of us are aware of our thoughts and that we aren't them. We're just the observer. I can't stress that. I can't I can't stress that more. Um that we are just the observers of our thoughts. Even if it is a thought of a traumatic experience that has happened, it's still just a thought. If it's not happening, we shouldn't choose to accept that thought and just know that, yes, it did happen, but it's not happening now, right? And to try to, you know, regulate your emotions based upon those thoughts. And just know, you know, you're just observing yourself. You're just observing things that uh possibly happen to you, right? And to me, that's also an indicator that you need to heal from that thing. You know what I mean? It won't keep rising if it's healed and released. You know what I'm saying? Or and or, depending on the situation. It's when you don't release certain people, places, and things, it disrupts your growth. It disrupts your elevation and you know what I'm saying, who you're meant to become. You're sort of stagnated, you know, you're keeping yourself in a box, you're not stepping outside of your comfort zone. You're you're staying in one space and time and thought, right? And not changing as you're supposed to. You know, as we even grow, we as from seeds, right? We grow. All right, longer, stronger, taller, smarter. Um, let's let's get into some key aspects of trauma, right? Um some trauma is repeated. Um trauma is prolonged in a sense, especially if you have to revisit the thought or you're around the person, place, or thing that was traumatizing. All right. Some causes include sexual assaults, of course, that's you know, very common, natural disasters, accidents, as far as like maybe car accidents, I would say, abuse in any form, mentally, emotionally, and physically, um, neglect, combat, meaning those that went to war or witnessing violence, which is sort of one and the same with those that um witnessed combat or were in combat in real time. You know, that is very um very traumatic, right? Um let's talk about it. Sexual assaults like happen too frequently in general, like just within the world itself as a whole, regardless of the culture and background. Um there are a lot of predators out there. Um the average predator is a Caucasian male, right? Whether it's sexual violence or whether it's physical violence with or without a weapon, using yourself as a weapon and or using weapons. Sexual assault varies and has different degrees and levels to it, but none of it is acceptable, and neither is it right. Um, my love and support goes out to those who have dealt with sexual assault, may have been sexually assaulted, no one who's been sexually assaulted, and I'm sure that's something very internally traumatic that we take so much time to accept and be able to release. You know what I'm saying? I can almost imagine those that have been through natural disasters, hurricanes, tornadoes, and things like that, or you know, severe snowstorms, rainstorms where it flooded, things like that can be very, very traumatic as well. I haven't experienced traumatic, any traumatic natural disasters or sexual assaults. Gratefully. Having a tornado come through your town, a twister, you know what I'm saying? That'll just ravage anything in its path. But it's a natural disaster. These are the things that happen on this earth, and you know, in the on this realm. So love and support goes out to those who've dealt with traumatic natural disasters and or still dealing with it internally. Release it, try to heal from it, take it a day at a time, and you know, have have patience and grace with yourself. Or um accidents, car accidents. I've been in a few accidents, um not many, but I will feel like enough. Some, you know, just offender bender, something light, and then one very, very traumatic one. But I'm still here and grateful to be in existence. Um, some people haven't walked away or didn't walk away from car accidents, train accidents, bus accidents, airplane accidents, things of that nature, which I gracefully haven't experienced at all. Just an automobile accident. And those are very traumatic. I could tell you firsthand myself, my most recent accident was the most traumatic of all. And um I've I was able to get past it, even though, you know, in some degrees or in some areas, or in some instances, it it kept being brought up after, you know, I kind of internalized with it for the first time after it happened, and you know, was able to release it, and you know what I'm saying? Like, really kind of like surely but surely remove it from my thoughts in a sense where, you know, it the thought of it impacts my emotions on a high level. That's what it did. It was it was traumatic, it really was. Like, gratefully I had my um seatbelt on. Which something told me right then and night. You know what I mean? I didn't put it on at first, but a couple minutes down the road I did. Not too long after that is when I got into an accident. So no one was hurt severely at all. Um I know it was traumatic for the person, the other person I was in the accident with. So they were traumatized as well due to the severity of the accident. Uh also grateful that it wasn't my fault. And it's an accident, and that's why it's called an accident. Accidents happen. They do on a daily basis. Um, so you know, we gotta try as humans, of course, spirit beings, having this human experience, you know, understand that, you know, these things are gonna happen. So, you know, in a 3D, in the human form, in the physical form, we need to, you know, try our best to, you know, pay attention, be vigilant, keep our eyes on the road, um, and make sure we're not distracted and focused mainly on getting to our destination safely and those around us, or love and support to anyone that has dealt with severe automobile, train, or plane accidents. Um, rest in power to those who have lost their lives due to sexual assaults, natural disasters, or accidents. Abuse of all kinds, of any kind, is extremely traumatic. Physical abuse, emotional abuse, um, mental abuse. And I feel all of them are detrimental in their own way on their own level. You know, you would say, you know, the physical things heal, but it's the mental and emotional that takes the hit. And usually that's even with words, like if you're physically hurt, scarred, bruised, broke a bone, possibly fracture something, that shit heals. But when you know something is said that truly and affects how you feel and see yourself internally, that's powerful, man. And that's something that doesn't just go away. You know what I mean? It can be traumatic to your internal world. You may repeatedly think of this thing, as I spoke of some of the key aspects may be prolonged because you you haven't healed, so you continue to think of these things. These things continue to take space within your mental space, within your mental state. So it's you know, it's definitely hard to get over something that you're continuing to harbor. It's my dog drinking his water. He loud as hell. Yeah, it's hard to get rid of something that you know you you may be around, or it's hard to not think of. Because it was either just that traumatic, or again, you haven't figured out healthy ways to release these energies, this, you know, these these traumatic um experiences, right? So shout out to everybody or anybody, love and support to everyone that has dealt with any abuse of any kind. So I'm called for, it's unnecessary, and you didn't deserve that. Anyone that has dealt with neglect, right, in any form or fashion, you know, someone not physically being there, someone not being there emotionally, someone not being there um mentally for you is traumatizing. Um especially in in a case where, you know, you're young, possibly an adolescent, and you know, you see guidance. You you know, you not sure where you're going in life, which is okay. Um, we're supposed to take it one day at a time. You know what I mean? Like only figure out so much and get so much right and done in so little time, you know what I mean? Especially in these days in this world where time is a factor. Time is time controls things. It's time for this, it's time for that, it's time for that, right? Lunch break and it's breakfast time, it's lunchtime, it's dinner time, things like that. That's that's consistent and constant control and being controlled, and you know, living based off a program from someone or something outside of yourself. Right. Sometimes we we neglect ourselves, we abuse ourselves. You feel what I'm saying? And in in some instances by putting ourselves in certain situations that, you know, we should have known better. All right. Alright, so some more causes is going to war, being a being a soldier, being, you know, in the army, the marines, the navy, you know what I'm saying, the air force. There's traumatic experiences on all of them. In every area. From land to sea, you know what I'm saying? To the air. So many people have lost their lives in this lifetime than before in combat of some sort. Um, and all witnessing combat. So both come with traumatic baggage that you're gonna have to deal with. I think most importantly, those that have taken lives andor had to take a life based upon orders, or it was to save your life. You know, I can only imagine what that feels like. You know, I've seen it on movies. I've actually talked to some vets, and you know, the feedback is all the same where they explain that, you know, it's very traumatic. They can't sleep, sometimes they can't eat, they're they're anxious, they're depressed, they're sad, right? They drink a lot, they smoke a lot, you know, they isolate, they don't want to be around people, they're afraid to be around people, you know, to be judged, and or, you know, they don't want to hurt nobody in case they get in, you know, in a position or feel, you know, a traumatic um energy within them, you know what I'm saying? Start to take shape for whatever reason. Um Last but not least, witnessing violence, whether you know you were the medic in the army or something like that, or in the services in general, whether you're a police officer, firefighter, or just a regular civilian, even a gangster. You know what I'm saying? And you have witnessed violence, you're traumatized. You know, and some of us, again, like I said, just brush it off, like, oh yeah, no, I'm good. You know, because you're in a safe environment now, maybe, or it's not happening anymore, or it's not happening to you, you know, maybe you move to a different area, you know what I'm saying? Or possibly, you know, you just changed your life overall, you know what I'm saying? Which is great. But if you still didn't heal from these things at the same time that you was changing and he, you know, and growing, then you still have to do that. Right? You still have to reach with inside yourself to observe these things, figure out what these things are trying to tell you and release them. Release them in peace, release them in love. Right? Because that was you then, and you had to go through what you had to go through to be who you are now. They're not to make you a victim of your circumstances, but these were the lessons, believe it or not, uh, that are molding and building you to be who you're meant to become. Right? They say what struggle breeds character, right? It's is it's how you govern yourself when you go through traumatic things, right? It's how you recover, it's how you bounce back that determines who you truly are. And no, it's not a debate to say you're better than someone or not, or you have to be a certain way to deal with trauma. Nah, you don't. Whatever works for you will work for you. But what I'm saying is you have to stand on that trauma, right? And not allow that trauma to stand on you or weigh on you. You stand on it. And that shows that you've learned from it, you accept it, you don't fear it, you're not scared of it, right? You're not hiding from it, neither are you hiding it. You know it happened, you internalize with it, you realize it happened, you recognize it happened, you acknowledge it. Now that you've accepted it, and in a mindset of acceptance, now you can release it. Right? And knowing that everything that happens is for your highest good, whether it's physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, or financial. It's all one and the same. It's all for the elevation of who we are. Those are the all of the aspects of a being mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, financial, but mainly physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Those are four aspects of each being, four levels, right? And or degrees of a person in existence, a being. Right. We often, again, like I said before, try to sidestep trauma, maybe because it makes us feel like I don't know, we're weak. Acknowledging that you've been through trauma is a sign of strength. Right? It's a sign of healing because you've recognized, realized, internalized, and accepted what has happened, right? And how it affected you. That's the most important second step. Accepting it, acknowledging, accepting it, and then realizing what effect it took on you.

SPEAKER_01 26:55

Right.

SPEAKER_04 26:57

And doing your best to resolve, rectify, and refine the effects and what's affecting you, right based off of a traumatic experience, which is the cause, right? So being in denial is actually a symptom, one of the symptoms of being traumatized, right? It includes denial, numbness, fear, anxiety, like I mentioned, depression, anger, and feeling unsafe. And the root causes trauma, which also affects your root chakra, right? Because if you feel unsafe, that's a blocked root chakra. Right? Being angry, fearful, anxious, that's survival mode that you're living in. Alright. You're worried about who you are, what you are, what's going on. You're worried about the world, things around you, people around you. When in all reality, you're creating all of this through your thoughts, aligned with the same emotion. Right? This energy vibrates on frequency. So depending on what frequency your thoughts are, will depend on what frequency your emotions end up being on. Right? Alright, so you gotta know that, you know, dealing with trauma is something that we in a sense sometimes can't avoid, right? There's some situations like I spoke of in the beginning that we we just can't avoid it. We we didn't cause it, and it's not our fault. So, you know, what could be done? But what we can do is do our best to heal, accept what is and try to repair and try to reform, you know, and try to accept what happened, right? Talk about these things, you know what I mean? Realize that, you know, things happen for a reason. And the craziest things happen, believe it or not, to make us stronger. Well, welcome to the poetry time, y'all. Exclusively on Supreme Monday Podcast performed by Ally Mo, titled Chronicles of Ally. New season, same show, same time. You already know. Let's vibe. Supreme Mobile. Peace, peace, y'all. We back. Season two, episode three, titled Trauma Responses. Well, let's get back to it. Shout out to Ali Mo Love for the poetry vibe, or exclusively on Supreme on the podcast, nowhere else. You know the vibes. You season same time. So, yeah, we just finished discussing the symptoms of trauma, which are denial, numbness, fear, anxiety, depression, anger, and feeling unsafe, which are all connected to your root chakra, meaning your root chakra is blocked. There's so many different traumas, more than I named or could name. But the important part is what we do after. Right? What we're able to do or should do after a traumatic occurrence. The best thing we can do is just realize that we're spirits having a human experience, right? We're spirits in a vessel, an earthly vessel, right?

SPEAKER_03 34:17

That we control. But we're only able to have that control when part of self is when we're in tune with ourselves and aware of who we are.

SPEAKER_04 34:37

Right? The earthly vessel contains low vibrations and frequencies that we're supposed to analyze from within and rise above it and elevate and become our higher selves, right? And when I speak of the root chakra, the root chakra is at the base, is where our private parts are. That's the root. And becoming our higher selves means we worked from the root all the way to the top, which is the crown chakra on top of our heads. Once we've unblocked, once we've internalized, realized, and recognized all seven chakras: the root, the sacral, the solar plex, the heart, the throat, the penal gland, which is the third eye chakra, and the crown chakra. Once we've realized all of that, did the knowledge, and have healed in each of those energy centers, then we're able to control the earthly forces and balance it out by becoming our higher selves. And what I mean by balancing that out is understanding that yes, we are spirits having an earthly experience, and at the same time, we should have grace, but at the same time, we should take accountability and responsibility for our actions and how they affect others as well. And make sure that our actions reflect who we're trying to become, who we want to be, regardless of what happened to us, right? We try to figure out whatever is helpful in every experience, whether it's traumatic or not. But if it's a traumatic experience, try your best to just learn from it and leave it, release it.

SPEAKER_01 37:00

Right?

SPEAKER_04 37:03

And that's how you empower yourself, that's how you become stronger mentally and emotionally by accepting what is and learning how to move forward, and that you deserve to move forward. You're not your traumas, you're not what happened to you. You are more than who you think you are, you are more than what you think you are, or what you feel you are. Again, we're spirit beings that can do anything that we put our mind to, plus the same aligned emotion.

SPEAKER_03 37:46

Eleven eleven on a clock, I shay. Let's get into that.

SPEAKER_04 37:54

Let me get into the the definition of eleven eleven on a clock. I have to. I have to show you that the spirituality is the master of our experience and our existence, right? Spirit means breath. So if we didn't have air or breath in our lungs, or air going to our brain, we will be brain dead or just dead in general. All right. Some of our ancestors. All of our ancestors weren't divine, right? It's polarity, it's a light and a dark. It's up and it's up and it's up and down, right? So there were some that were civilized, and were some that were uncivilized. So the 1111 angel number is a powerful sign of spiritual awakening, alignment, and rapid manifestation, urging you to focus on your highest desires rather than fear. See, this plays into it, right? Because trauma symptoms, I spoke of one was fear, right? So this speaks of urging you to focus on your highest desires rather than fear. So focus on healing and becoming, getting past, right? Learning that your past experiences don't define your present or your future. You do, your decisions do. How you think and how you feel is what controls your present and what will create your future, all right? It also says your thoughts are aligning quickly with reality. Make it a crucial time to maintain positive intentions and choose your thoughts wisely. You have the right to choose because you're just the observer. Remember that you have the right to choose what thoughts you accept, which thoughts you align with that you feel that is you that represents you. If you feel thoughts of victimhood or think you're a victim, just flip it around. Feel victorious because you were able to get past your victim, your victimhood, or being a victim, right? Dealing with the trauma response or partners of dealing with the trauma in real time. You, you know, you were victimized, no doubt. But you're not a victim. You healed. Even if you didn't feel like it, you healed just off the strength that you made it out of that situation. All right. So that was proof right there that you were meant to heal. You were meant to get past whatever happened to you because you're still here. So now it's up to you what you decide to do. Alright? 1111, again, they say spiritual, it's a spiritual awakening. It's often considered a wake-up call, an activation call to pay attention to your environment, thoughts, and spiritual path. Again, pay attention to your thoughts, who you're around, what you around. It makes sure that it's conducive and or aligns with who you are, who you want to be, where you want to be, how you want to feel, how you want to think. All right. The environment has to match what you think, how you think, what you feel and how you feel. Because you're either in alignment or you're unaligned. Right? 1111 also represents alignment and support. The universe is giving you a cosmic thumbs up that you're aligned with your true purpose. And of course, that's the heal. And not even from things that you've done, but things that people have done to you and things that is within your energy that you don't even know of based upon your ancestors. So, yeah, you may have a lot of trauma. Some of it you don't even know why. Sometimes you feel a certain way. Sometimes, you know, you feel some of these traumatic symptoms and don't know why. That's why. It's been passed down from generation to generation, as I explained before. So whether you caused it or not, it's still not your fault. It was a part of your journey. Every person you meet, every interaction, connection, every occurrence, every experience that you experience is meant to happen for you, not to you. Right? You're not going through it, you're growing through it. It happened for you, not to you. That's how you take on a victorious mentality, a warrior mindset. Learning from the things that happened to you, throwing them on your back or your chest or your head as armor. Alright? Because you experienced this thing. So now you know what to expect, you know what it does, you know what it doesn't do.

SPEAKER_03 43:36

You know what you want, you know what you don't want. So now you decide what is all right? Do you want to be happy? You want to feel joy?

SPEAKER_04 43:52

You want to feel safe, calm, collective, open. Highly vibrational. These are the things that happen when you hail. You transmute that low vibrational energy into a high vibrational energy. Trauma is something that we experience, right? That again is just not our fault. And I think that's one thing about trauma that I feel sucks is that the trauma, some of the trauma we experienced, we didn't even cause it. So it's like, why do we have to deal with it? You know what I'm saying? But what's important is learning how to define trauma. Like figuring out what trauma you possess, right? And recognizing the prevalence of trauma within a society too. And you'll realize that you'll realize why people do what they do and act the way they act. Because they're traumatized. One saying sorry all the time. That means that, you know, you feel as though you know you're always always at fault. Nothing you do is good enough, pretty much. So anytime, you know, you may think you've offended someone or made someone feel some type of way, you apologizing. And sometimes you don't even need to. And most times you don't, because it's a trauma response. Saying sorry all the time, something is not right. You know? Some children do that. You know what I mean? I noticed that more in children than in adults. So now you know why that is, right? So acting, acting like your needs don't matter, right? You neglecting yourself. Remember, I said sometimes we abuse and neglect our own selves based upon being neglected and abused ourselves, right? The law of correspondence, as within, so without. So if we possess neglect and abuse within us because it happened to us, then we're gonna reflect that outward. All right? I feel like we don't matter because who cares, right? I'm nobody. I'm just a victim. You know what I'm saying? Those are trauma responses. You know what I'm saying? You need to know that you matter, regardless of if you're traumatized or not, or whether you understand your trauma or not, or whether you ask for this or not. You know, you still deserve to feel like you matter, right? Third, thinking you said something wrong. Again, kind of ties into start saying sorry all the time. If you think you did something wrong, said something wrong, you're always gonna be apologizing for something, right? And sometimes people just can't handle the truth. So that's a part of it too. So don't think you said something wrong. You said something right because it triggered a nerve, it triggered a thought or an emotion within someone that made them check themselves and they didn't want to. All right, that's a trauma response. All right. Because sometimes what you say, people just are not ready to hear. All right, and it's probably not even how you said it, it's what you said. You feel what I'm saying? But that plays a part in how you said something. All right. So just remember that if you say if you have a thought that has positive intentions behind it, and you say it the right way, there's nothing wrong with what you said. You said everything right. That's why people have a problem. Or number four, worrying what people think of you. That's another root chakra, sacral chakra, solarplex. Like, you know, you don't know yourself, you have low self-esteem, you know what I'm saying? Like, you know, you you need to be validated by people because you care what they think. Right? When you're worried about what, you know, people are gonna say, or even maybe how they're gonna treat you. But know that when you're being you, people will gravitate to you that are being them, right? It's quantally it's quality over quantity, right? You want genuine, caring, authentic people around you. Right? That support you being you. Not worrying about what other people think with you. Right? Or being one of the people that you're worried about, you know what I'm saying? Of what they think of you. What people think of you is none of your business, and you being you or whoever you want to be is none of their business. Continue to be you. Cause there's people out there that uh are always gonna be themselves, and people who are themselves are authentic. Alright? And authentic things happen for authentic people. Alright. So stop worrying about what people think. Be yourself, all right. Number five, trying to be perfect. There's no such thing. I mean, you can perfect a skill and things like that, but as a spiritual being having human experience, you'll never be perfect. You can be righteous, right? And do what's right because you know what's right. And when you do what's right, that means you're applying what you know wisely. Because you're able to show and prove you understand and know what's right. But it's you using what you know wisely, right? It's not just you knowing what's right, it's you doing what's right. Through your doing right, through your words, ways, and actions, you know, and that'll show a person the importance of what you know and that you understand, and it'll give them the proper understanding of who you are, the type of person you are. Six, needing people to tell you things are okay. That's sort of like worrying about what people think of you. You need to be validated, right? You need people to to answer things for you that you can answer for yourself. And these are all trauma responses because you're allowing outside sources to dictate who you are, what you are, what you like, what you don't like. You're allowing them to choose people, places, and things for you, which is not okay. That's a trauma response. All right. You can make your own decisions for yourself, and it's best to, right? And through those experiences that teach you, those are the greatest ones, right? Your own experiences. So you know what you can handle or not handle. You know what trauma did to you and how it's affecting you. So you know where not to go, what people not to hang around with, things like that, right? What choices not to make to put you back in that position, right? The idea is to progress, not regress, right? So remember that you don't need nobody but yourself to tell you what's okay and what's not. All right. Seven, watching people's tone to see if they're upset. You know, that's sort of like needing validation again. Well, yeah, about what people think, so on and so forth. All right. It means you're walking on eggshells, so to speak. You can't authentically speak or move because you feel like you're gonna upset someone. That's a trauma response. And that's not even like a comfortable way to live. I've I've experienced that before. I've walked on eggshells for people and you know dimmed my light and wasn't myself and adjusted who I was at a time to make people happy, but though that's a thing of the past. And that's proof that what? I was dealing with trauma. That's why, you know, I'm able to drop these jewels on you because I've experienced it. And I talk about mostly everything that I've experienced on every episode of my podcast. These are experiences that I've experienced in some sort of form or fashion. Like I told you, I was in a car accident. Right? I've dealt with traumas from from my lineage, from generation from generation. I was passed down from my parents, from my great-grandparents, things that they didn't heal from that I don't even know about. Right? Trauma is passed down. Dr. Joy deGru, post-traumatic slave syndrome. There's proof that we can pass trauma down. We could pass unhealed negative behaviors down, bad habits, we can and traditions, quote unquote, can be passed down through mind and emotion. That's in our DNA. Or eight, comparing yourself to others. For what? Right? You not him, he's not you, she's not you, you not her. Be yourself. Again, everybody likes a person that can be themselves, who can be authentic, right? Who likes what they like because that's what they like, love what they love because that's what they love. And unapologetically be them, right? All the time. No matter the time, you feel me? So quit comparing yourself to unnecessary people. You know what I'm saying? Compare yourself to yourself. Compare yourself from yesterday, from last week, from last month, from last year. That's the only comparisons you need to do is between yourself, your inner self and your outer self, your mental self, your physical self, your spiritual self, your emotional self. Compare those things amongst yourself. So you know what area to work on and what to work on. Right? Nine saying yes when you want to say no. That's crazy. Alright. So you're allowing people to do what they want, and then they're now controlling the things you do or don't do. That don't make sense. It does because you're traumatized, right? And you haven't healed. So you're trying to appease people, you're trying to please people, right? You're more worried about what people think and how they feel versus how you feel and what you think. So if it's no, say no with no explanation. No is a whole sentence. You heard? No. And then that'll also show you who people are. When you tell a person no, you tell people no, sometimes you get a different person or who this person truly is. You know what I'm saying? It's who they really are. Are you willing to accept it? I'm not sure you are because you're not even accepting the traumas that happened to you and why you're allowing people to dictate how you live your life. All right. So say no and it's no. If it's yes, say yes. But make sure the decision is yours and you're not allowing anyone to lead you. Or where we at 10. Feeling like you must earn love. It's a big thing. And this is this aligns with the episode titled Manhood, which part two is coming soon. Or go check out um Manhood season one, episode 10, where I talked about, you know, men, it's like we have to earn our keep. We have to be 24-7 robots. We can't take breaks, we can't feel, you know, our emotions don't matter. We got a man up, right? But that's an whole nother episode. But feeling you must earn love is pretty much exchanging service to feel accepted, so to speak. You're strong, you always want to be there, you you know, you want to foot the bill, you know what I mean? You're running yourself ragged, spreading yourself thin to keep people or a person happy that's not even happy about you, right? That doesn't love you, most of all don't love themselves, because if they love themselves properly, they'll be able to love you. And even sometimes loving people from a distance is love. Sometimes the realest love is letting someone go. Let's talk about it. All right. Certain things need to be released, like traumas. And it doesn't mean a person is traumatic, but at the same time, things can get traumatic when we when we don't make the right decisions in life. Again, sometimes we cause the traumas. All right, be mindful. So you don't gotta work for love, right? The authentic people that are in your life already love you. Why? Because you're you. That's what makes them love you. You don't gotta have to be this great business owner, have a bunch of money or materials. Being you is the currency. Being authentic is high currency, high frequency, right? Remember that. Love on yourself, possess that love first, then you won't have to chase or earn love. All right. 11. Doubting your decisions, second guessing yourself, pretty much. You're just not sure. You're unsure about yourself, you lack the knowledge of yourself, you lack the wisdom and understanding of who you are. Due to your traumas, it puts it put you in a cage, it it dumbed you down. Right? It messed with your self-esteem, your certainty about yourself, your self-concept of yourself. I'm here to tell you these trauma responses are messages, right? An alert on what to fix. Upon us all, we're not machines, on what to improve. We're not things, I mean, you know what I'm saying?

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On what to heal, on what to improve, right? The only doubt is that you shouldn't doubt. Right. Doubt only leads to doubt.

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So believe, then find out so you can know that you are capable of releasing trauma and being in control of your mental and your emotional and becoming and being in a better mental and emotional state. You have the choice, you can make the decision to do that. Only you. Twelve. Noticing your flaws a lot. Embrace your strengths, what's good, what's great, what's happening, and acknowledge what's not. Acknowledge what you need to improve, accept what you need to improve, and take the necessary steps to improve. That's it. But I'm sure there's beautiful things, good things that's going on that you can focus on versus only noticing your flaws. But that's a sign of trauma response, is why we're talking about it. All right. Trauma affects everything you do, your mental state, which affects everything you decide to do. So it affects your physical and emotional state in every form. So this is why healing from traumas is so important. So you can notice the bliss in your life and notice the greatness in your life and just work on the things that aren't working. But you're not focused on what's not working, you're focused on what's working and creating space and time to work on the other things, which you can control. Because some things we just can't control. We have to realize that too. Or last but not least, 12, explaining too much so people don't misunderstand. Let's talk about this. So I was I was having a conversation with a woman on I met on social media, and she just kept saying that she was like, You're formal. You're being too formal. Like, I forgot what she said the first time. She said, something. You don't have to be so formal, something. And then the second time, she said, you don't have to be so formal. It doesn't seem like, you know, being that I was so formal, it didn't seem like I was, I don't know, trying to get to know her, understand who she was. But to me, that didn't make sense. Right? Because as I told her the first time when I responded, when she said, you know, you have to be so formal. I'm like, me saying that when you ask me how I'm doing, I'm grateful. How you feeling? I'm grateful to be in existence. Gratitude for asking. That's what I say. That's how I talk. That's me. That was formal. I guess too formal for us. So I'm like, well, that's just who I am, right? So then I forgot. Maybe I said it again or something along that line. So I forgot the second time. What made her respond like that? But I told her again, like I told you before, this is just who I am. So I'm not sure why you're assuming that, like, you know, I'm not trying to understand you. If I wasn't trying to understand you, then we wouldn't even be talking. Like, I wouldn't allow you in my space, whether it's online or not. You feel what I'm saying? Or exchange any energy with you. You feel what I'm saying? For that part. If, you know, I wasn't open to, you know me, understanding who you are as a person. So we went our separate ways. Because I'm not going to keep explaining to you, man. You know what I mean? Like, if you misunderstand, I mean, I'm not sure what's to misunderstand. You know what I mean? But I've learned to understand that more, more like understand and overstand that people choose to misunderstand you, right? Because they can't understand you. Right? You're on a higher frequency to the point where you just seem too real or seem too well put together based upon. You know, the way you carry yourself, right? The things you believe in, the things you know, your ideologies, your principles, right? Your knowledge, wisdom, and understanding, understanding, and overstanding of yourself, right? Should never have to be explained. Right? For who? For what? When I've did everything to explain who I was in the most simplest terms. You feel what I'm saying? Now, if you don't understand, then I mean, there's nothing I can do for you. You know what I mean? That means that we're just not gonna connect, you know, because we're on two totally different frequencies, and that's all that means. You feel me? But people that hear you clearly will understand you. You know what I'm saying? Like I said, some choose to misunderstand you because they know that you know you're very important. You're a great deal. And it's something that they can't even explain to themselves. You feel me? So it's like it's making them question theirself. You know what I mean? It's almost like a very intelligent person being around a very ignorant person. You know what I mean? The ignorant person's gonna feel threatened at the intelligent person feeling like he's showing off, but no, he's just intelligent. He acquired knowledge and he's using his knowledge wisely, right? To bring forth understanding to himself, what he knows to better himself. All right. And as he sets the example, people around him truly do understand who he is. And that's why people don't like you, because you say what you do and you do what you say, and they see that you're definitely 100% about what you say you about, and you who you are, all right? You who you ex you ig you who you exact part of self, you who you say you are. Alright. You who you're who exactly who you say you are to the to the to the bone gristle, right? You're authentic. You know what I'm saying? That's not easy to accept for some the average person is a follower, not a leader. Remember that. Well trauma is something that we can't escape or get away from. But what we can do is realize, eternalize, recognize it, and release it in peace and in love. There's nothing you can't bounce back from, come back from, learn, or unlearn. But make sure that you're taking the proper time and or using your time wisely to do so. Alright? Remember the revolution will never be televised. Cause the truest revolution is the revolution of the mind and consciousness. And if you can control your mind, you could control you can control your thoughts, and you'll be able to control your reality. You're in control, not trauma. Gratitude for pulling up an A to vibe on me. That's Supreme on the Podcast. Where my lawyer listeners, please don't forget to rate and review. I would love your feedback. There's a fan mail section on the podcast website where you can rate and review. So please do so. Talk to me, I talk back. Where whatever platform you're listening from, please leave a comment there as well. Like I said, I want to hear from y'all. Shout out to Supreme Raza Law and Queen Shamira Earth for your support and commenting and reviewing. It's definitely um I'm thankful. Grateful for everybody across the globe that's tapping in the Supreme Mondo Podcast. Well, look out for more guests. You know what I'm saying? 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